Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Things my children should know

My oldest is 9. Will be 10 in august.

I  am ALWAYS hearing how her life is going to be when she is older. I can't exactly shatter her dreams right now, so I will put it all here for her to read when she is older.

1. You are NEVER going to marry Justin Bieber ( mainly because by the time you are old enough to date, he will either A: transition to being female, or B: be bald , fat, broke, and hideous ), or Niall Horan from One direction ( because he is a cutie, and some other chick, or dude will have laid claim to him )

2. You will NEVER be smarter than Mommy! I have been there, done that, and went back and did it again, in fact I invented it!

3. No matter how much you deny it, you are just like me! You have my attitude and style!

4. Your life will NOT be perfect. No one's life is, so I think it is a safe estimate that neither will you.

5. You do NOT know everything, and the sooner you know this the better things will be.

Now for things I do know and support. I know that you will succeed in everything that you put your mind to. You are beautiful inside as well as out. And I know one day that you be an awesome Mom , you did after all learn from me. you will make mistakes, and I will be here to help you pick up the pieces. And above all else I will love you forever and always no matter what!

Lessons in Life

I have read quite a few articles and blogs lately pertaining to the Steubenville rape case.  So I will throw what I have to say out there as well.

As a Mother to 3 beautiful little girls, it is my job to try to teach them how to not get raped. Or abducted and murdered.  Strength in numbers, if you see someone suspicious walk the other way. If you feel even the slightest bit threatened scream, stay in well lit crowded areas.

I remember hearing about Morgan Harrington, a local Va Tech student that went missing from a Metallica concert at UVA, whose body was later found in a field. I remember hearing this drunk girl, went outside ALONE at this concert and was never seen again. All I could think was, why didn't she use the buddy system? She should have known better.

Sometimes tho, you can do all the right things and still have it happen.

When I was 17, my friend's A and P had an apartment. I used to stay with them all the time. P had a group of friends over. I knew most of them and thought they were nice guys. They had been drinking. One of the guys was looking at me and A all night long and quite honestly he was weirding us out. Me and A decide to go to bed. We go to her bedroom and LOCK the door to keep everyone out. The whole situation just felt wrong to us. Now, I sleep like the dead. People used to joke how I could sleep through a tornado. I remember falling asleep and suddenly I couldn't breathe. I opened my eyes and this dude was on top of me, with his hand over my nose and mouth, he was IN me!!! I freaked out. I bit the shit out of his hand and threw him off of me. I ran out of the house, where I found A sitting under a tree crying. He had touched her too. I went back in the house and took P's car keys and we ( basically stole ) took her car and went to my brother's house. He in turn drug us to the hospital. This was by far the worst experience of my life. I had to tell what happened to the hospital staff, and the local police department. I had to have a rape kit done! I was violated TWICE in one night. We thought we were safe in a locked bedroom. We hadn't been drinking! I leave the hospital and go back to my brothers house. I remember standing in a scalding hot shower and scrubbing my skin till it bleed. I just couldn't get clean enough. Charges were pressed, then the calls start. A family member of our attacker was calling us and threatening to kill us if we went to court. The police wouldn't do anything about it. 4 months later we go to court, and once again have to tell a room of strangers what had happened. It was humiliating! And all he got was PROBATION!!!

When I was 20 I married my first husband. At the time, I had thought he was Mr.Perfect. Then I met the real him. It started out as mental and emotional abuse, then turned to physical, and then sexual. He would wait till I was asleep roll me over, push my head into a pillow so that no one could hear me screaming or crying and anally rape me. Out girls were less than 15 feet away when this happened!

I have emotional scars from my experiences. I can not sleep with my back toward hubby out of fear that the same thing will happen again.

So when I hear about people DEFENDING rapist, I am outraged. Rape is rape. It does not matter if you are a young drunk girl, a sober girl that thought she was doing the right thing to keep her safe, or a married woman. It is wrong no matter the circumstance.

And they know what they are doing is wrong! Perhaps they were raised thinking they can have whatever they want, and that no doesn't mean no.

What it say about our society when we defend the rapist/murderer, and not the crime victim?

Would you want someone defending your child's attacker?

Shouldn't we be raising our children with a higher moral standard that what we were raised?

Shouldn't we be teaching our young to be more caring and empathetic?

If we don't start now is there even a sliver of hope for humanity?

Monday, March 4, 2013

MHO Monday Mingle

This weeks theme is DRAMA

Ohh, that is my favorite topic!

Here are the questions ( and my answers )

1. What does the word Drama mean to you?

Yeah, this is why I moved out of an apartment and into the the country. Drama is where crazy people love stirring up problems and getting into shit that doesn't concern them. They get off on other people's unhappiness.

2. Do you like Drama in your life?

Hell no! I have enough going on without people causing bigger messes in my life for me to clean up.

3. What is the biggest Drama ordeal you have been in?

Ohh this is a toughy. It had to be when a certain "Drama Monger" decided to trash talk my kids. All because I wouldn't waste my gas to run her to a town an hour away just to pick up 5 dollars? I mean Really Bitch? I will waste more than 5 in gas getting there! Long story short..... I got arrested for "threatening over the air ways". Honestly is wasn't a direct threat. I said I would cut a Bitch over my kids. It's not like I said I was gonna cut her from ear to ear, watch her bleed out , then play in her blood... ( I have said that to someone in the past tho ), I can get quite descriptive in my threats.

4. Do you know someone who loves Drama? Who is it?

The whole effing town of Christiansburg Virginia. I swear most of those people don't know how to go out and do something without getting all involved in someone elses life.

5. How do you avoid Drama in your life?

I moved to BFE! Seriously tho, Drama is like a plague of the Earth. That shit will follow you everywhere.

Friday, March 1, 2013

Inspiring Blog Award

Hey, Y'all see that perty pink pic up there with the crown? 
Huh huh huh? Do ya, do ya , do ya?

Yep you guessed right. I got an award.   This is me dancing : p

Yes I do dance like that. Shut up, it's not funny!

I want to thank my wonderful Gal Pal Stacy over at Stacy sews and Schools. I love you Lady! 

All awards have rules. Much like the Grammy's ( which I will never win )
So here is the low down:

1. Display the award image on your blog.
2. Link back to the person that nominated you.
3. State 7 facts about yourself
4. Nominate 15 other bloggers for the award.
5. Notify the other bloggers that they have been nominated and link to their post.

^^^^ See? Easy peasy mack and cheesy :)

7 facts about me:

1. I have been telling people that I am 23 for so long, it's sometimes hard for me to remember my real age.  ( obviously this means either 1: I am really 23, or 2: I am so old dementia has finally set in. )

2. I am OCD about the number 7. As in I only get gas at stations with at least 7 pumps. And I count to 7 while driving.

3. I love tattoos. I currently have 6, and have 9 more I want.

4. I am extremely accident prone. I walk into the wall, fall over the baby gate and up the stairs at least once on a daily basis. 

5. I have broken the same ankle 7 times in the past 5 years.

6. I LOVE MIDGETS <<<<< yes you read that right. I am obsessed with them. 

7. I am not shopper friendly. Grocery shopping is a challenge for me. I am truly lucky my smart assed mouth hasn't gotten me arrested at Wal-Mart....... or that I haven't actually smashed someones head in with a can of creamed corn.

Now to pass this award on to 15 more:.......

1. Deezy does it
2. ykihayht
3. Under the Sun
4. cup of tea and a blog
5. my daily jenism
6. The polished Mommy
7. non-stop Mom

Well darn. there's that number 7 again. I can't think of anyone else. Soo I am deviating from the rules ( I'm a rebel like that )